Kindness is referred to as the quality of being friendly, generous and considerate.

Today, my friend and i had a conversation about the power of kindness within a relationship. We discussed the fact that many couples are not friendly towards each other. Some dont even like each other. Let alone be considerate to each other’s feelings, needs or wants. We concluded our discussion on this very salient point that, one of the most important ingredients in relationships, is kindness. Proverbs 11:17 tells us that those who are kind benefit themselves but the cruel bring ruin on themselves. Its clear here that when you are kind, it opens the doors for you to have a great return. Matthew 5:7 informs us that Blessed are the merciful for they shall inherit the earth. Mercy/kindness is an attribute of Gods Divine nature. He is rich in mercy. Kindness moves us to act on behalf of one who is not deserving. We are guaranteed the possession of the earth ( kindness has benefits).

Kindness is not given only in pleasant situations but also when one is faced with troubled realities and experience mean acts. It has no favorites but is extended as the needs arise. It’s selfless and considerate. It doesn’t always look after itself but is always looking a way to serve. Within our relationships, it’s important to search for ways to serve, instead of focusing on being served. Ephesians 4:32 says, Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another as God in Christ forgave you.

Kindness shows up when punishment should be imputed. Its an investment in our own wellbeing. Its never too late to be kind, polite and a loving human being. We all fall short therefore as we attain knowledge and understanding, it must be offered freely. Lets not wait on the good works of others but rather allow kindness to flow based on its necessity. No act of kindness, no matter how small is ever wasted. Aesop. Colossians 3:12 states Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness and patience.

I charge us, today, to put on kindness and extend it to our neighbor, not because they are showing us that they deserve it but because we know it must be given generously. Remember it has its own reward. The more you sow this seed of kindness, it will grow and we will reap the rich harvest. Let kindness be on your tongue (Proverb 31:26). Couples, do not repay evil for evil or reviling for reviling, but on the contrary, bless, for to this you were called, that you may obtain a blessing.

Should you be struggling with kindness, may i suggest that you ask the Holy Spirit for help. Ask Him to help you become more like Him so that you can be a conduit for kindness. Ask Him to help you to demonstrate His mighty power through you that you can exercise love and kindness to your neighbor and yourself.

More Grace.

The world is so chaotic. Sometimes we are not even able to hear our own selves. We lose touch of who we are and sleepwalk through life. We do not take the time that is needed to centre ourselves on what truly matters. Our minds keep going, not on what fosters growth and maturity but on the cares of life. Some of us, continue to speak and not be intentional enough about being still to hear the inner man or the voice of the Holy Spirit.

One writer says, the world would be happier if men had the same capacity to be silent that they have to speak. Silence is needed for the improvement of mans wellbeing, whether cognitivity and or emotionally. It reduces stress and advance focus. It creates space for creativity and re-centre us on what’s important. Ecclesiastes 3:7 informs us that there is a time to be silent and a time to speak. It is said that a fool is one who talks constantly and at inappropriate times but those who uses wisdom understands when to be silent and when to speak. Proverbs 18:6-7 ‘The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating. The mouths of fools are their undoing, and their lips are a snare to their very lives.

I believe that in this season, God is calling us to silence. He wants to speak to us but we are too busy speaking. The bible says in Proverbs 10:19 that when there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his lips is prudent. It’s important to know that even our idle words will be taken in account by the ‘Just Judge.’ Silence allows for reflection and comprehension. Silence is significance in the emotional,, psychological, spiritual and social aspects of lives. It has its rightful place in the rhythm of life discernment. Psalm 46:10 tells us to ‘Be still and know that i am God.’ Its in the stillness and silence that we experience the presence of God.

For me, it’s in the moments when i choose to stop talking and allow myself to be silent, that often times i experience God the most. Its in those early morning walks, or sitting on the deck in the late evenings, or even lying down in bed, most times sin the dark, that He shows up. Those are the times you get the writing materials because as you prepare yourself to listen, He will speak.

Should we find our lives being chaotic then it means there is the absence of the Holy Spirit. It may be an indication that you are not listening enough. Silence should afford you clarity. The truth is, you cannot walk in obedience if you are not clear on the instructions. I challenge you today, to find your quiet place where you meet with the Holy Spirit. Prepare your heart and choose to not say anything but to listen to what He has to say. I promise you, that you will leave full. Choose to be silent, give ear to the voice of the Holy Spirit and He will give you deep revelation and insight that you have never experienced before.

More Grace!

Disappointment is inevitable, it is bound to happen or experienced at some point or the other.

Disappointment according to google, is sadness or displeasure caused by the non fulfillment of one’s hopes or expectations.. It comes out of frustration; example of disappointment: you prepare for an interview, did well at it, believed you got the job but was later told you were not shortlisted. OR you gave your time and effort in a relationship, hoping that it would be lasting, however it didn’t work out. Disappointment is shattered hope. The scripture says in 1 Peter 5:7 to cast your cares on Jesus because He cares for you. If as people, we don’t learn the art of bringing all our situations and circumstances to the Lord and believe that out of his love and care for us, He will work them all out for our good. We will find ourselves in a place of sadness, displeasure and broken heartedness.

We experience disappointment differently, some of us it’s that low feeling of sadness deep down in the stomach. For others, it’s a sense of failure, others its regret and still for others it is hopelessness. Disappointment is rooted in hope and beliefs about how a particular thing should be. It’s expecting a specific result from a situation sometimes based on the time and effort exerted. It highlights where you are and what your values and desires are. It compels change and growth and encourages emotional resilience.

Two notable points are: (1) Psalm 34:18 tells us that ‘The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.’ God sees your pain and He’s near. His strength can be reached. (2) Romans 5:3-5 points out that ‘We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance character and character hope. And hope does not put us to shame.’ Disappointment grows our character, if we let it, and leads us to a deeper hope that is not based only on circumstances.

As we navigate disappointments, the following is necessary:

1. Be clear about how you feel. Own it. Psalm 62:8 – ‘pour out your heart to Him, for God is our refuge.’ God wants us to be authentic. Talk to and with Him honestly about how you feel. Admit how the situation and or circumstance allow you to feel.
2. Find out the cause. Ask yourself if the plan you had, failed. Were my desires met? Was my hope misplaced? I’m i trusting that all things will work together for my good (unanswered prayer). Talk yourself through it.
3. Take it to the Lord. Don’t allow your feelings to pull you away from God.

In concluding, Romans 8:28 tells us that ‘all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to his purpose.’ Even our disappointments can be used by God for a greater purpose.

God’s speed.

Romans 15:13 – May the God of HOPE fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

The world is a very dangerous place to live in especially in these days. We are not in a position to control anything as life is fleeting. Many are afraid and anxious.We don’t have enough of anything. There are money issues, health scares, broken families, war in our communities, death of loved ones and the list goes on. We can’t seem to ‘catch a breath.’ Hope doesn’t seem to be relevant anymore hence some turn to various ‘fixes’ for temporary comfort. This week, i want to present to you, HOPE in Christ.

The song says, ‘turn your eyes on Jesus, look full in His wonderful face and the things of this world will become strangely dim in the light of his glory and grace.’ If in this life we have hope, we would be men most miserable (1 Corinthians 15:19). Hope is meant to be in Christ as He is constant and does not change. Doesn’t it make sense to put our hope in someone that remains the same even in moments when we are changing. When we don’t know what is next and how we are going to solve the next problem? You may say, i want something or someone i can see and feel. Hope is not tangible, it cannot be seen or felt. Does this mean, we should do away with it? Absolutely not. We throw the ball up in the air, with the expectation that it will fall back to the ground because of the law of gravity. Hope is the law of the Kingdom of God. It is having expectation of the unknown to make itself visible in the known (natural).

The hope that is needed in the world today, is not that of ‘wild expectation or selfish desires,’ but rather hope that relies completely on the finished work of the cross. Its hope in Jesus Christ and what He has done for us. 1 Peter 1:3 tells us that when we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior, we are born again in a living hope (God). All of what we seek is already in Christ. It is in Him that we have complete joy and peace but it requires us to have steady trust and focus on Him alone; which does makes sense because how can you want to experience the best of something or someone new without exercising absolute confidence and trust. This confidence and trust allow for the God of hope to indwell us. He comes with what is required to combat that which was orchestrated to destroy us.

1 Peter 5:7 says cast your cares\anxiety on Him because he cares for you. Whatever you face today, whatever you have been struggling with, God can fix it on your behalf. He can calm the troubled water of your soul, he can cleanse and make you whole. I promise you that He brings new life to any dead situation (i have proven him for myself). Jesus loves you and wants the best for you. You were not created to worry and stress but rather to cast all the things that give rise to anxiety and fear on him. He is big enough to carry it all hence the reason Christ died.

Be confident in God and not your capabilities. Be resilient amidst life challenges. Find strength from the joy of the Lord.

Hope thou in God.

The song says, there is more that i require of thee. Sometimes being lazy, passive and settling are postures many of us choose because reaching for our dreams and walking in purpose and our God given assignment can be difficult, painful and also requires total yielding to the Spirit of God. Yielding takes us to a place where we see in the Spirit but not yet attain in the natural. Complacency is easy but in this season God is calling you and i to a higher place and space. There is more that is required of us. I hear the Lord saying, /come up higher.’ He wants us to not to be afraid but move by faith. The Lord said to Joshua, Have i not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you where ever you go.’ (Joshua 1:9).

God is calling you out of what is familiar and common to you. I know yo have been trying. You’ve been praying and believing God to move in your favor. God is saying in this season, I’ve come to release the shackles from your feet. I’ve come to grant you, your request. You are free, now move out of the norm into your answered prayers. The ball is now in your court. Do you know the story of the ‘Chicken?’ Chickens in the country are normally tied or locked up in a coop for so long that they don’t know what freedom looks like. They would stay in one space, or even be walking around in the same place within their confines. They however believe that based on their movements, however slowly it is, it means ‘progress.’ The often look out through the mesh and watch people passing them by and even sometimes they would stop to admire them but would not stay long enough to create real connection. They would watch from their ‘prison’ life passing them, day after day. Then one day came, when the owner decides to release those chickens. He removes the rope or string which tied off their feet and or open the door of the coop to give the chickens freedom. Those chickens being in captivity for so long were not able to experience freedom. Captivity was their new normal. They didn’t know what to do with themselves, even when the owner assisted by lifting them up and putting them on the path to freedom, they chose to remain still.

God is calling you to freedom. Now is the time to get up and take it. Move out in your answered prayers. Walk out in your new season because God is with you. Shake normalcy, complacency and familiarity and allow God to take you to places not even your mind can conceive. Be like the eagle, soaring must become your new normal. Get up out of your bed of wondering, negative self talk , shame, guilt and fear. Be courageous. Be strong. Be bold. Be obedient to the leading of the Holy Spirit. This is your season, move with intention and precision.

God’s speed.

Life is beautiful amidst the noise in our ears and the dangers we face from time to time. It’s about appreciating the small moments, finding meaning in hardship, or just recognizing the wonder in being alive. God is good and continues to be faithful to us.

Welcome to my website. This is where i hope to encourage you to be your best self while living for the Lord Jesus Christ. Mother Teresa once said, ‘the biggest problem facing the world today, is not people dying in the streets of Calcutta, and not inflation, but spiritual deprivation…this feeling of emptiness associated with feeling separate from God, and from all our sisters and brothers on planet earth.’

As a people, we oftentimes feel empty, alone and believe we are running this race called life alone. I’m here to remind you that we are in this together. The main goal is to keep you motivated and fill the emptiness that you may be experiencing with the Word of God, life’s experiences and to help you find joy in the small things as difficult as they may seem. I’m here to remind you that Jesus loves you unconditionally and He only wants the best for you. Life must be experienced beautifully.

More grace!